Post date: Nov 5, 2013 4:41:32 PM
It is too complex to define completely. Whatever I say will be a tiny part of one aspect of a multifaceted human interaction.
First of all, It is all about giving; You get what you give! ...it is reciprocal, like a mirror. If it is not, it becomes like that. Because It can work only till a certain point if it is not mutual. I remember writing, "Every excitement has a half-life." excitements decay with time... this is true for every single excitement on this planet, and excitements last for a shorter time than we imagine.
But If it is a relationship, isn't it always mutual? - It is. But it is tricky in the sense that... for the same set of people and conditions it can work beautifully or it can be a disaster. It depends on what kind of "loop" they get themselves into. By loop, I mean a cyclic, spiralical pattern of events. If they enter into a good spiral, it leads to better, to awesomeness to perfection and beauty. Otherwise, it results from bad to worse to tragic. It is like the fate of charged particles in a magnetic field!
I wrote in a different context - "Humans are magnificent hybrids of cruelty and kindness, love and hatred,... and many more such paradoxical extremes. And, yes ! the proportion of one extreme with others keeps changing. so be careful!" That's why I said, both disaster and beauty can happen to the same set of people and conditions. It depends on what they bring forth and flourishes in each other. A small trigger can lead to the kind of spirals I am talking about in one way or another. From nothingness, we can create a universe of either beauty or confusion and ugliness.
This spiral loop is like what we call in computer science, an "infinite loop", once you get into such a loop, unfortunately, the only solution you are left with is a system reboot. And humans are not as simple as computers to reboot.
Once you enter a spiral, it is tough to break it out. It's true for either kind of spirals - upwards and downwards. So, If something is lovely, fix sooner if anything goes wrong, take a u-turn immediately, no matter what the reason is. Because once you get yourself into a wrong spiral, Even if you understand everything and can see all events as clear as a crystal !, you may not be able to revert after a point... because it's a different part of human brain that works in parallel and may overrule your another "true" rational part!